I hate my mom.
Oh boy. The connection you have with your mom is probably the most important connection you make…even more so than a connection you might feel with your dad because you’re both females. Just like the father-son relationship is strong. So what I would suggest you do is to try your hardest to work on it. Yes, there are going to be a lot of ups and downs but in the end, keeping some sort of open honest relationship with your mom is the way to go. If you feel she’s not receptive to you, then be the bigger person here and go to her. Talk to her, break down her wall. Do whatever you can to dig deep and find out what is going wrong between the two of you. The woman gave birth to you, for God’s sake. She was there when you took your first breath, your first steps, said your first words..there’s no other bond that is more powerful. Even if she’s an alcoholic, an absentee mom, an abusive mom, the more you work on this relationship, the better your life will be in the long run. That’s not to say, if she is any one of those things, you should just accept that. What I’m saying is if you should try to work something out between the two of you…even agreeing to disagree about things. No parent is perfect. We make mistakes at our late age. Some of us die not repairing the mistakes we made. Don’t let that happen to you because you will always feel a hole in your heart where she belongs. </3 I would hope to God, you try to find some ground where you can meet in the middle and be happy with just that. <3
my mom doesnt let me do anything 99% of the time and when i do something small that 1% she will bitch about it the whole time and not even let me get to do whatever it is the whole time and its making me really mad and shes mean about it too like something as simple as letting spend some of my christmas money on a shirt at a thrift store is a problem and shes always like well discuss it later and then she just keeps sayin that and its making it all worse
Oh, that’s not good when she says, we’ll discuss it later because she’s not dealing with the issue at hand. Have you tried to talk to her without confrontation? In other words, pick her brain a little bit? Like next time she says something you totally don’t agree with, instead of having a screaming match or going your separate ways, can you actually ask her what she’s really thinking when she says the stuff she says? It might open her up a bit. I’m not sure why she’s acting the way she is. Does she have a lot on her plate? Is she under a great deal of stress? I’m not making excuses for her, I’m just trying to figure out why she’s avoiding things. You need to break through to her somehow. How about writing her a letter explaining how you truly feel. Sometimes this method of communicating is good because it gives the other person time to digest what you’re saying without you being right in front of them. Try that. You need to dig deeper here and find out what makes her tick and why she’s not allowing you to do things that normal kids do.